Many people believe that long distance relationships never work out. Your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously as you may get your heart broken. It is not going to be easy. You could get sad and lonely at times and things may get complicated. Long distance relationships can get tough but they have their advantages too. Here are 10 tips to make your long distance relationship work to keep your love alive.
1.Do not talk to your partner all the time
It is unhealthy to be too possessive. You two don’t really have to talk 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples think that they need to get over the distance by doing more. This is not correct. It might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of telling all the details of your life. Work on the motto of less is more.
2.Take this opportunity to grow your love
There is a famous saying, “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” See it as an experience. Test your love for each other. Learn from the Chinese saying, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that the distance is pulling you two apart, you should think that this experience will bound you together even stronger.
3.Make some practical rules
You must be clear with what you expect of each other during this long distance relationship. Make some ground rules for yourselves. Harshit Mishra is in a long distance, he says, “I never go to sleep without resolving issues with my significant other. I also ask my partner to tell me about her day. It is completely okay to not talk if she or I am busy. We both have to be understanding.”
4.Communicate regularly and find ways to keep each other happy
Start you day by talking briefly with your partner. A ‘good morning’ or a ‘good night’ every day keeps the flow. Try to update your partner on your life and its happenings. Send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. Nikhil Jain says, “By putting efforts, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.”
5.Talk about your desires
Sexual tension is definitely one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire keeps the relationship going. Not only is sex a biological need, it is also an emotional one. Communicate with your partner. Talk to them about your feelings and desires. Plan about the things you would do when you meet each other.
6.Do not keep your partner in the dark
Lying can make a relationship hollow. It propels you to lie again and again. When you’re in a long distance relationship, you cannot keep your partner in the dark. Do not use a rebound to deflect your feelings. If you are angry or displeased with your partner tell them. If you feel that things are not working tell them. It is always better to communicate and face the situation rather than lie.
7.Participate with your partner
Plan activities with your partner that you can do together. Play an online game. Watch a documentary on YouTube at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. Play stupid games that make you two giggle. Tell each other stories. Do things for each other that can make you both happy.
8.Find similar interests
Suggest books, TV shows, movies, music, news and others to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics to talk about. It is good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.
9.Try to meet each other in a while
Visits are the rare gifts of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and longing, you finally get to meet each other. You get to fulfill all the little things like kissing and holding hands. These all are common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships
10.Keep objectives in mind
These are questions you two need to address. “What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” Ultimately no couple can be in a long distance relationship forever. After some time we all need to settle down. So set a plan with each other. It is important that you two are thinking similarly and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living together in the same timezone, both of you are still motivated to work together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.